CARDINAL RULES OF SWINGING:
No means NO!! It does not mean maybe later either.
No judgment. Just because they may not be your type doesn't mean you have to play with them
Larger quantities of alcohol does not make you sexier or funnier, it only makes you drunk
Women are psychic; they KNOW the outcome BEFORE the men. So don't try to talk them in to it
Cameras or recording devices can only be used in your room with ALL parties permission
Leave the drama at the door. Drama is never sexy!
BE YOURSELF: People are interested in YOU, so relax and be yourself. This doesn't mean you should be a jerk and disrespect others; it means you should"let your hair down." Also, whether or not you're interested in swinging with someone or a couple in particular, remember to always be polite. You may have other things in common and develop quite a friendship despite your initial reaction. In swinging, as in the restof life, our relationships can change with people over time and through them you might meet someone with whom you wish to be intimate.
BE COURTEOUS: The lifestyle can raise certain, valid insecurities, uncertainties and fears. You're not always going to find people that share the exact same views that you do. Always try to be aware of other people's comfort levels, especially your partner. In a group party situation, a friendly"hello" can work wonders to ease someone's discomfort, and if you find that your interests are in different directions, or any attractions aren't mutual, remember to remain polite, as you would certainly wish to be treated. When meeting a potential swing partner one-on-one (or two-on-two, or two-on-one as the case may be) the same applies: be polite, even if you don't think there's any potential for intimacy, you could still have a great time anyways. Keep an open mind.
CLEANLINESS: If you really want to bring what could be an intimate evening to an abrupt halt, DON'T SHOWER or BRUSH YOUR TEETH! Nothing is more of a turn-off than body odor and offensive breath. In many ways swinging is just like dating -- you still have to make yourself presentable, even more so if you know the evening will involve sexual intimacy. It's always good to carry a small accessory case with you containing: asample size mouth-wash, breath-mints/gum, sample-size deodorant,condoms (if your prefer) and perfume/cologne. A small kit like this can easily be fitted in your car's glove-compartment for quick, easy access.
DON'T PUSH: Remember, "No" means "No." Anyone has the right to refuse your advances as you have the right to refuse theirs. Don't expect or ask for any explanation, in this lifestyle an initial "no" will seldom change to "yes" no matter how much persuasion you apply. Not everyone will match perfectly and an improperly handled situation can result in hurt feelings. If there's someone that youwould like to swing with, let them know in a friendly manner and accept their response -- whatever it may be. If they change their mind,they'll let you know.
PRACTICE SAFE SEX: Practicing safe sex is, of course, a person's choice. But it's a very important choice -- this is the 21st Century after all. Anyone's decision to use condoms should be politely accepted. Anyone not willing to accept this decision is acting irresponsibly and disrespectfully. If someone's willing to be intimate with you, you owe them the simple courtesy of respecting their comfort level.
ENJOY YOURSELF!!:Swinging is about having a good time. Live some fantasies, explore your sexuality and enjoy! This lifestyle has plenty to offer with clothes onas well as off. Approach it with a positive attitude and a sense of humor.
PRIVACY: Who you see at Secrets, what you hear at Secrets, what happens at Secrets is to be kept PRIVATE. Sharing inside club activities with non-members could terminate your membership.